Transparency: Is the church truly ready for it?




What does that word really mean? And does the church world REALLY want that? Are the Christians truly ready for it?

adjective trans•par•ent \tran(t)s-ˈper-ənt\
: able to be seen through
: easy to notice or understand
: honest and open : not secretive

This definition makes my heart skip a beat.

I want to be transparent.  I want to be completely honest and open…but this scares me.

How honest can you be as a Lady in Leadership?

And by ‘honest’ I don’t mean that I am speaking ‘untruths’, but simply not being completely …well, transparent.

Transparency, without a doubt, requires discernment.


I know that in order for me to transparently share all of my Glorious Mess on this blog, God will, without a doubt, receive all the Glory as I live out JOY in my Journey!  For there is no mess big enough that God cannot defeat!  And I know that every single season of my life is a season to EMBRACE…and learn from…and grow from…and then teach from…and that is how we got here… Confessions of a Blessed Pastor’s Wife.


My husband and I have been in church leadership for most of our married life.  This blog is not simply for pastor’s wives but for any lady in leadership.  This can mean a pastor’s wife, a pastor, a youth leader, a Sunday School teacher, the church cleaning lady, or new Christians…there is no such thing as too much encouragement or too much JOY!

So as I was doing some research on transparency in the church, I ran across a quote from Ruth Graham:

“My vision is to collaboratively come alongside the Church to help it become a safe place for people (Christians and non Christians) to come just as they are, find a community in which to repent of sin without condemnation and be lead to the next step in their faith journey—basically, a place of outrageous grace and transparency. I believe as people see a transparent community of grace, being real about who we really are, others will see and be drawn into it—the next phase of evangelism.”


Now, don’t get me wrong…I’m not one of those preachers that is “ALL about that Grace”  but I DO thank God for GRACE…

Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.”Hebrews 4:16

…however, I do not think we should walk all over it either.  Sin is sin…and “we have ALL sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.”Romans 3:23 … and others need to be reminded of this.  The world believes they can never walk a Christian lifestyle because they can never be ‘perfect’.  They need to see that we have all sinned…but through the grace of God we have been SET FREE! 

I absolutely believe that when someone gives their heart and life to God, change takes place!

“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”2 Corinthians 5:17

Sometimes change happens quickly and sometimes it takes baby steps.  This is OK.  As long as the steps are going forward and not backward.


But what about all these other things we struggle with as more mature Christians?  The struggle is real y’all…

This world is going to hurt you, this world is going to disappoint you, this world is going to let you down.  You will struggle with your sanity at times, you will struggle with doubt and insecurity at times, you will struggle with hurt feelings and anger at times.  When you stump your toe, it is going to hurt…just like when the world stumps their toe … it hurts!


Being a Christian doesn’t make us some sort of Super Hero or anything…..but we serve the Super Hero of Super Heroes and no matter what life throws our direction, He is right there to help us back up.  In all our ups and down, the highs and the lows, throughout the good, the bad, and the ugly!


So, as I begin my journey of transparency, I leave you with this…

It is by yielding ourselves to Christ and saying ‘no’ to the world that we grow into women of God.  We are women who revere the Lord, adore our husbands, and cherish our children.  We are women of faith who believe in submitting to our husbands and being honored by God rather than disrespecting them and flattering the world.  We may stumble but you can’t keep us down.  We may grow weary but will be lifted up.  We simply cannot be women of this world, for we are undeniably women of God.


2 thoughts on “Transparency: Is the church truly ready for it?

  1. Left you a Facebook comment as well but wanted to say here that this is beautiful. I know personally that when I’ve chosen to be transparent, I’ve been more able to point others to the only source of hope.

    Such a wonderful post! Love getting to know you!

    Embracing the Journey!

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